Secrets To Happiness : FORGIVENESS
The world we live in is made up of all kinds of people. There are good people, there are bad people. There are generous people, there are petty people. There are amicable people, there are aggressive people. There are hardworking people, there are lazy people. There are honest people, there are dishonest people. There are kind people, there are evil people. And very often the definition of each “kind” of people can be very subjective and depends on one’s perspective.\
In our daily life in general or at work / business / study, there are bound to be people who are nice to us and of course there are also people who treat us badly. At the end of the day, people behave the way they are because of their needs, wants and “survival instinct”. If there is a “conflict of interest” between us and another person, there is bound to be “clashes”.
Many people unintentionally “hurt” or “damage” us without realising it, in their pursue of their own benefits or for the family and loved ones. Just like how we might have “offended” others without realizing it in our daily “struggles”. Of course there are people who “intentionally” take advantage or “sabotage” us in order to gain more for themselves.
Remember, if there is a “conflict of interest”, even friends and siblings can become enemies. It might not be something personal and just “strictly” business. But when necessary, people will protect their turf, territory, interests or gains at all cost.
No man is an island. As long as we work and live together with other fellow human beings, we cannot avoid “clashes” or “conflicts of interest” from time to time.
We cannot control how others act or behave toward us, but we can choose how to react and treat them in return. A wise person once said, “if we all believe in ‘a tooth for a tooth’ kind of philosophy, we will be living in a world that everyone is toothless!!!”. Hehe, well, that’s good wisdom indeed. Instead of “fighting” back, most of the time, the best way to handle any conflict or prospective conflict, is to just walk away from it all. Yes, just leave. And forgive your “enemy” or whoever it was that started or brought the “conflict” upon you.
Forgiving your “enemy” is not for benefit of him/her. Forgiving your “enemy” benefits YOU. Yes!!! If you bear hatred and anger towards your “enemy”, you are the one feeling sad, angry, and tired, and through the “poison” YOU yourself produced in your blood, bring about future sufferings in the forms of high blood pressure (hypertension), heart attack, and other sickness.
Why torture yourself and your loved ones around you with the “poison” of your hatred? Your “enemy” would not even feel a thing when because of your hatred, you are suffering from sleepless nights (insomnias), lack of appetite, etc. It is so silly to “suffer” further because of your “enemy”.
Forgiveness is the best way to “release” yourself from the vicious cycle. The moment you forgive and “let go” … you truly walk away from it all. When you learn to forgive (while not necessarily forgetting), you gain strength and wisdom. You will find peace and happiness and the energy to move forward in life.
You owe it to yourself and your loved ones. Do yourself justice - forgive your enemies and leave them behind. You have a choice.
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